Appointment

Today Cathy had another appointment and is 29 weeks. She is doing great and so is Ari. Her social worker went with her to this appointment and said that she got to meet the doctor and that he is very supportive of her adoption plan. This is a great feeling, we want her to have as much support as possible and not feel judged by anyone. Cathy also told the social worker that she wants me to go to her next appointment on May 10th. I can't believe that I get to be part of her appointment and experience that with her. I should defenitley be able to hear his heart beat, maybe even feel him move. I would love that more than anything. I do not think that there is an ultrasound scheduled for that day but I have asked the social worker if she knows. Either way it is just going to be great to be there with her and meet the doctor that is going to deliver our son. Feeling so far away of the pregnancy as been difficult so this will give me a great opportunity to be more connected to Ari and Cathy. I can't wait to go!

Other than this new development we are just focusing on getting ready for Ari's arrival. I am preparing to be out on maternity leave at work, getting the house ready, and of course enjoying time just Jeremy and I. I will update everyone on the appointment after May 10th!

The Journey Continues

Things are going great here. Cathy (birth mother) went to the doctor this week and is doing well. She is 27 weeks and has put on a total of 21 pounds since the start of the pregnancy, I am glad that she is putting on weight, she is skinny, only 138 now. The baby is measuring right on track and developing well per the report from the social worker. They are talking about inducing around 39 weeks, I guess that is common with adoptions, especially when the adoptive family lives out of town and has to stay in a hotel, of course he could have other plans than that and come earlier. We completely under estimated the emotions that would come with this part of the process. I never expected to feel so connected to Cathy and the baby this quickly, I feel such strong emotions towards her. I am having trouble with not being part of the pregnancy, more than I thought I would, I hate that I can’t be at the appointments and ask questions and feel him move. I love him so much already but feel so far away from him. This is a whole different experience than what we had expected. I am not really sure what we expected but it is different. The scary thing is I now see how much those emotions and love are going to grow once we see and hold him. I can’t wait until we are home in the house together and he is OURS.

There is some logistical stuff going on the birth father right now that the social worker is working on but we are just trying to stay focused on the positive. The social worker thinks that they have found his current address and will be trying to contact him very soon. Hopefully that is successful. If not then he will be served with papers outlining the Adoption Plan. He is aware of the adoption per conversations but has not actually met with the social worker. They are not classifying this as a high risk placement since he is aware of the pregnancy and pending adoption and hasn’t come forward saying that he wants to parent, however, we will feel much better when it is all on paper.

This has been very positive and we are so excited about everything. We almost have his room ready, we are waiting on our friend that is an electrician to come install the ceiling fan before we completely decorate the room. We still have to get the décor, it is hard to find stuff for a nursery that is not online. We are planning a weekend trip to Dothan (about an hour away) to go to Babies R Us the last weekend in May. My friends and women I work with are having a shower for me on May 21st, I can’t wait. It is going to be so nice to have some time with people that support us and celebrate Ari.


Thank you everyone for continuing to follow our journey